Your emotions have purpose
and are worth handling with curiosity, respect, and wisdom.
God Designed Emotional Beings
For some of us, emotions are overwhelming and all-important. For others, they’re bothersome and irrational. But no matter where you fall on the emotional spectrum, one thing is for sure: God designed you as an emotional being.
“Emotions are signals on your internal dashboard that help you stay in tune with reality.”
— Tristen Collins
What might it look like for you to have a healthy relationship with emotions? Could you learn to discern them and use them wisely? Through the unified lens of current research and scriptural teaching, this guide explores:
how emotions work as signals on your body’s internal dashboard
why emotions are valuable (even when they’re unpleasant)
what to do when your emotions don’t match the situation
how to cultivate emotional health over the long-term
the ins and outs of shame, fear, anger, sadness, jealousy, and happiness
“Thinking and feeling cannot be cleanly separated. Trying to separate ourselves from our emotions would strip us of our humanity.”
— Jonathan Collins
Your Emotions Matter
Whether you’re a skeptical stoic or an impulsive feeler, pursuing a healthy relationship with your emotions is key to living a passionate and abundant life. After all, it’s ultimately about becoming a little more like the person God created you to be.
“The Collins have written a unique and extraordinary book, one that blends the recent findings of psychology with the ancient insights of spirituality, all grounded in a healthy, solid biblical theology. We all ache for a healthy soul, yet this side of Eden, and especially in our modern, frenetic, fast-unraveling world, struggle to live in the love, joy, and peace we know Jesus has for us. This book is like a map, or more, a kind, calm, wise guide for the road to life."
— John Mark Comer, pastor for teaching at Bridgetown Church, and author of The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry
“Here’s your chance to take a big step forward on your journey toward understanding your inner world! This is a marvelously honest, insightful, and practical book about the surprising gift our emotions are when we understand what they signal. Read it!”
— Ian Morgan Cron, author of The Road Back to You
"I don't remember the last time I read such a consequential book. Jon and Tristen have brilliantly woven theology, psychology, wit, humor, and grace to give us such a desperately needed resource! I immediately thought of ten people I will be buying this book for."
—Jefferson Bethke, NYT best selling author of Jesus > Religion
“At the ripe old age of 37, I keep imagining myself standing outside a high school with a case of this book to hand to every student. If 17 year old Joy would have read this book, she would have headed into adulthood with permission to stop and take stock of the “why” behind her emotions (there were a few) and the “what” God and science has to say about them. This is a psychology-theology book that is both profound and accessible for any age or stage.”
— Joy Eggerichs Reed, Founder of Punchline Speakers
“‘Sometimes you choose the book. Other times, the book chooses you.’ This book chose me. I needed it. I hope Why Emotions Matter chooses you, too. A life-altering blend of poignant story-telling, thoughtful psychology, and clear neuroscience, all anchored in biblical insight.”
— Dr. Bruce McNicol, founding president at Trueface; coauthor of The Cure, The Ascent of a Leader, Bo's Cafe; executive producer of The Heart of Man
“Why Emotions Matter is a well-crafted guidebook for discovering something much deeper in ourselves. Tristen and Jon not only offer the practical tools needed to forge deeper connections, but they vulnerably share their real journey—how a rationally minded stoic and an emotionally sensitive clinician are finding deeper marital intimacy through increased emotional health, now powerfully transforming three generations. They model what they teach, making for a most trusted guide.”
— Celestia and Steven Tracy, founders of Mending the Soul Ministries
“Why Emotions Matter combines the very best wisdom from a top therapist and a founder of The Bible Project working together with a top editor to give splendid insights into our emotions as a vital part of the whole person. It is a personally vulnerable, pastorally wise book that helps us understand, recognize, and wisely navigate six central emotions. This book is a grace gift to us.”
— Gerry Breshears, PhD, Professor of Theology at Western Seminary, Portland
“Wow! This book is such a gift. I learned so much about my emotions—not only what they are but why we have them. The vulnerable stories Tristen and Jon share from their own lives help each emotion ‘pop’ in color as they provide both a biblical understanding of our emotions (that confronts many popular stereotypes) and best practices from counseling (that are really helpful and practical). I highly recommend Why Emotions Matter; it will help you live a healthier, fuller life.”
— Joshua Ryan Butler, pastor at Redemption – Tempe; author of The Skeletons in God’s Closet and The Pursuing God
Tristen Collins (an emotive feeler) is a trauma recovery therapist in Portland, Oregon. Her husband, Jonathan (a rational skeptic), is a co-founder of The Bible Project.